Most people are in a such a hurry. There’s the grocery list, the big project at work, that long overdue oil change, and other grounded matters that consume our daily routines. I’m not suggesting we abandon any of this; we need groceries and more to keep us fed and employed.
What I am suggesting is that we not spend every waking hour thinking about these things. When I find my mind on a loop about something that has nothing to do with the present time, I change gears and become present. I know planning is important, but beyond planning and preparation, at some point you must let that go and accept whatever the outcome will be.
Being present is the biggest gift you can give yourself. Obsessing about money will not bring you more money. In fact, based on the law of attraction, obsessing about the lack of money may keep you in that state.
Sometimes when I am out on my lunch hour from work and, despite the freezing cold, I simply appreciate where I work. I work a block from Dupont Circle in Washington, DC. I love the atmosphere and the energy there. I see the Pansies that are still a beautiful purple, despite the twenty degree weather. I see people rushing to their destination. I smell an abundance of food opportunities and I’ve investigated some. I see a Starbucks on every corner, and that is happiness all by itself.
In my world, there are small moments of happiness every day. Right now, I’m finding enormous happiness in a can of Throwback Mountain Dew. I know, I know, bad, bad bad girl. Life’s too short to not have fun is all I can say.
Last weekend, I was at the wedding of one of my best friends whom I’ve known for thirty years. It was New Years Eve and after midnight, he called for a group of friends to all link arms and get into a circle. He said we were his core group, the people he loved the most were there with him. I thought, this moment will never come again. Given our age, we might not all be a complete circle in a year of two. This is not fatalistic thinking, it’s a way of appreciating the moment. We all assume there will be others because death is something people don’t want to think about. I know death so well that it is not something I fear but rather accept.
The small moments add up to a life that you either appreciate or regret. Don’t regret not stopping to notice the little things. The little things, a flower, a strange bug, a beautiful sky, an amazing smell, someone’s smile-these things can all add up to an amazing day. The cell phone or a worried mind keeps you from noticing all that is beautiful.
Of course, your mental state will either pick up on the good or the bad. I’m an enternal optimist so I see Pansies where you may see a homeless person’s excrement. What you focus on is what will create your mood. Choose your focus wisely. Accept that you are the one that has control over your mind and your focus. Focus is energy. Energy is exponential in what it can create for you. Just look at the Pansies and you will be okay.
Peace to you today and always.